I remember it like it was yesterday, my first night out with Jane.
I met her after work and we went to a pub for a drink or two or maybe three. After a while we ended up at her place and talked about life and things that we’ve done. We listened to music and played on the computer all the while still drinking. At around 11:30–12:00am she decided to invite her new boyfriend, well the guy that she was interested in, over. He shows up and seems to be a decent guy. We ended up leaving at about 2am and Kyle drove me home. Here’s something you should know about me if I want to know something, I don’t mind asking it flat out. So I asked Kyle right then and there, are you interested in her, his answer; a genuine yes. Well I made Jane a promise that I would call her the minute I walked in to my place and of course I made the mistake of telling her what he had said. She’s thrilled.
About a week or so later, she and Kyle came to have lunch with Ethel and me. Now Ethel is very much like me, just a little older, if she has something to say she will no questions asked. We enjoyed our lunch and made plans for a few weeks down the road to have a Girls dinner.
Now, when my phone rings at 5 in the morning it better be an emergency! Jane’s on the other line crying, telling me she’s at the hospital. First thing out of my mouth is “Are you ok, what the hell happened?” I guess the story went like this: Jane and Kyle had an argument and he left her place. Now I don’t know the exact story and what was said, I probably wouldn’t get the true story even if I asked, but that’s how it all began. She got upset and decided to go after him in a cab. Now Jane’s un-employed at this point in our story so for her to spend $50.00 on a cab is not in her budget. She gets to Kyle’s place and they get into it, pretty heavily from the sound of it. It ended up with Kyle having his roommate distract Jane while she was in the bathroom threatening to “remodel” herself. At this point Kyle decided he had had enough and called the police.
After the initial shock of it all I tried to be supportive, but when she started emailing, texting and calling him, even I though it was too much. I don’t understand why she thought he would want her back, and how she could possibly be upset when he told her he didn’t. This guy was a gentleman when it came to the end; he wished her luck and love and thought that was it...was he ever mistaken.
She didn’t give up, not even close, she went as far as breaking into his email account as well as his profile on the dating site, then erased all his messages and started making very rude and insulting comments so everyone can see them. He once again called the police to see if there was anything he could do and was told he could definitely press charges. He asked if he could maybe wait and see what happens, but did request to have someone call her and explain the seriousness of her actions as well as the consequences related to them.
Shortly after they called and explained a few things to her, I received a call at work. She was crying and told me that she had received a call from an officer asking her all kinds of questions about what she did to Kyle. Of course Jane told the officer that Kyle had hurt her and that he was a terrible person and pretty much painted a horrible picture of the guy, but the detective explained to her that whatever happened she still had no right to break into his accounts and make any changes to anything. The officer went on to explain that if Kyle chose to he could press charges that could land her in prison for up to 5 years.
What am I suppose to say…if I tell her to drop all of her hate and resentment towards the guy and basically write it off as a mistake and a growing experience, like I would do, I’m being a horrible and un-supportive friend. How stressful is that?! I give up and agree with her that Kyle is nothing but a loser and a horrible human being for hurting and using her the way he did. I don’t believe to this day that Kyle would ever press charges, but he does have the right to for the remainder of his life. I’ve told this to Jane on more than one occasion and finally she has dropped it, well until she hears a song that reminds her of him when they were together.